Eating disorders, whether it is anorexia, bulimia, binge-eating disorder, an eating disorder not otherwise specified, or any other eating disorder, is not a physical problem per se. As we know, it’s not about food. It’s not about weight. It’s not about the scale. It’s not about what you see in the mirror.
Instead, eating disorders exist in one place: your mind. An eating disorder literally becomes another “person” in your mind with its own “voice” that controls and dictates your actions. An eating disorder literally becomes you. It starts to control your thoughts, your actions, your emotions, your mood and your beliefs. In essence, when it takes control of your mind, it begins to define who you are.
Yes, eating disorders exist in your mind. They are often brought upon by past traumas, whether they are, among many other things, physical or sexual abuse, broken relationships, heartbreaking tragedies, and/or body image issues that can cause you to strive for control, perfection, and empowerment.
But it’s all a lie. It’s all an illusion. And when your eating disorder takes control of your mind, it fills it with lies, distortions, irrational thoughts, feelings of inadequacy and insecurity, and a sense that you always need to do more and more to reach the happiness that you’ve always wanted. But to do this, your eating disorder creates a mind that is full of falsity, misrepresentation, and danger.
Your eating disorder “voice” says that you are fat. The truth is that you are dangerously thin. Your eating disorder therefore makes you try to lose weight, even though you are placing your health — and life — at great risk. Your eating disorder tells you that you’re eating too much. But you’re actually starving yourself. Your eating disorder tells you to count every calorie, but by the end of the day, you have eaten so few calories that your body is literally screaming for food to sustain its most basic needs.
Your eating disorder tells you that you need to engage in vigorous exercise everyday or else you will get fat immediately. The truth is, if you took a few days off from exercise, or exercised 3-4 times a week, you wouldn’t gain any weight, and if you did gain weight, it would be healthy weight that your body desperately needs. Your eating disorder tells you to eliminate so many foods from your diet, and often live on nothing more than raw vegetables, salads, low-calorie soup, and only a few more food items.
The truth, however, is that your body needs a variety of food, from different categories, to be healthy, happy and energetic. Your eating disorder tells you that it is the most important thing in your life, so you stop going to social events, seeing friends, or being passionate about other things. The truth is, your eating disorder is dangerous and deadly, and needs to be treated immediately.
The point is that your eating disorder is not your “friend” and that “voice” in your mind is full of lies that will destroy all of the dreams and passions that you want in your life. It will destroy your desire to live a happy, meaningful, fulfilling and rewarding life. It will destroy your ability to love and accept yourself unconditionally. It will, in essence, take your life away from you.
It’s time to break-up with your eating disorder and re-connect with your authentic self. You are a beautiful, kind, loving, caring, unique, special and wonderful person. When you say goodbye to your eating disorder, all of your passions and dreams will be possible.